Am I the only one who appreciates rejection?
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Several years ago I had a crush on a guy who was looking for something different. I didn't know how to deal with the rejection. One morning, while sulking, I read my horoscope.
There it was in black and white.
Rejection is a Redirection.
It still stung, but the words were useful.
I remind myself of this often. When a date is a bust, my flight is delayed, or I lose a potential client, I tell myself rejection is a redirection. I quietly give thanks and trust that things are working out for the best.
A friend of mine has the cutest jeans. I asked her where she bought them and went straight to the Levi's store to get myself a pair. They had two lengths, both too short. Like Goldilocks, I was looking for just right. I left the store, empty-handed and disappointed.
I was determined. I went back to the same store a few days later. Maybe I could make the length work. When I got there, the dressing rooms were closed for cleaning. I still wasn't ready to give up. I went back the next week. This time the entire store was closed due to a COVID outbreak. I had to laugh.
I decided to give it one more try and called a different location. Turns out they had a longer pair, not too short! I drove to the store, tried them on and smiled. They fit perfectly.
I was grateful for all my detours–the unavailable dressing room and closed store. In the end, I hadn't settled and ended up with the perfect pair of jeans.
My invitation for you:
Think of a time when things didn't go the way you wanted.
What did you learn?
Did you dodge a bullet?
What blessings came from the rejection/redirection?
Being rejected has no correlation to our value as a person. We make rejection personal. While our egos might feel bruised, we aren't what they are looking for. I'd definitely get rejected if I auditioned to play Kobe Bryant in a movie. But… that casting director is headed towards burnout and hires me as her coach.
Moral of the story, I'm grateful the guy rejected me all those years ago. He did me a favor.
Are you ready to embrace the detours?
Are you ready to release the reins?
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Your future self will thank you!
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With so much gratitude,