Hello stubbornness my old friend… I’ve come to talk with you again.

Welcome back, I'm happy you're here.

I have a secret to tell you…

I used to be really stubborn.

I didn't know I was being stubborn, I thought I was being me.

Years ago in a healing session, the practitioner asked me how I resonate with being stubborn. I said “I'm not stubborn…” and then I asked her to give me an example of what it means to be stubborn.

I laughed. Yes, I can be stubborn. The initial memory that came to mind was being at the Beverly Center and waiting for an elevator. The elevators would take forever and I would wait. I've invested this much time, I am going to see this through. If I walk away, the elevator wins. At least that is how I saw it.

Now that I have this awareness, I can see I was being ridiculous.

Did I just think “The elevator wins.”

When I walk away, I win. I claim my time and my sanity back.

Fast forward, I rarely take elevators, often searching for the stairs or an escalator.

When I realized my stubbornness was only affecting me and my peace of mind, I started making adjustments.

I have some friends with full lives and children. When it felt like I was the only one reaching out, I would feel hurt, my ego a little bruised. The story I told myself was that if they reached out, it meant they liked me as much as I liked them. So when they wouldn't reach out, it confirmed they didn't like me. That thought/story wasn't serving me. I learned the hard way that if I want to see them, I will have to reach out.

Being stubborn was keeping me from seeing some of my dearest friends. What was I trying to prove by waiting for them? That they love me as much as I love them? That's nonsense. Once I realized the two were unrelated, I stopped paying attention to whose turn it was and started calling and making plans.

When I'm stubborn I'm torturing myself, and only myself.

I am done torturing myself.

I still have some stubborn tendencies and I acknowledge them when I am aware, checking in to see how I want to proceed.

My invitation for you:

Bring to mind a person or situation you're being stubborn with.

• What are you holding out for?

• What are you trying to prove?

• Who are you trying to prove it to?

• Have you articulated this to them?

• Why is it important that you make this point?

• How long are you willing to be in this space?

How would it feel to be able to walk away, pivot, change your mind?

When I'm being stubborn, I'm waiting for the uncomfortable situation to change, for someone else to change it. Now I take control and change it on my end. No more waiting.

Arre you done waiting?

Are you ready to take back your time and sanity?

Let me help you.

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Thanks for reading! I look forward to seeing you next time.

With so much gratitude,