To Quit or to Change our mind, that is the question…
Welcome back, I'm happy you're here.
I've been hearing a recurring theme, people are feeling stuck, trapped and ultimately miserable. Whether it's a job or a relationship, they know it's run its course and they don't know how to walk away.
There is fear in the unknown.
There is fear in putting our needs first.
There is fear of being a quitter.
What does it even mean to be a quitter?
I know what it means and it sounds so threatening.
Hi, my name is Joey and I'm a quitter!
In another lifetime I made TV commercials. When I started out, I loved everything about it. Everything!
Eventually, my love for it turned to like.
Then I started to hate it more than I liked it.
Did I quit?
Yes.
That chapter felt complete. It served its purpose. I was done being miserable, justifying it with a full bank account.
Staying in that industry would have been me proving myself to someone, anyone, everyone. I am not here to prove anything to anyone but myself. My sanity matters. I was terrified to quit. I had no back up plan. Being unemployed and terrified was more appealing than doing one more commercial.
My younger sister had dreamed of playing collegiate soccer since she was 7. While in middle school she fell in love with an instrument. With the demands of junior year, soccer and the marching band, she realized soccer wasn't as important to her as it used to be.
Did she quit the soccer team? Yes. Is she a “quitter?” Hell no!
She reevaluated her life and her priorities.
It's normal for our priorities to change over time.
She changed her mind. She's living in integrity.
She is stronger than I was at that age.
To be proud of her is easy. To follow her lead, prioritizing our passions, takes courage and trust that we are making the right decision.
It's easier for us to tell someone “follow your passion” while we rarely take our own advice.
My invitation for you:
Think of something or someone you are wanting to quit.
How long have you known it's time to close this chapter?
What are your thoughts and feelings around quitting?
If your best friend were in your same situation, what advice would you give them?
How can you feel comfortable trusting your own advice?
Think of a time in the past where you were feeling done; with a job, someone's behavior or something else.
How long before you took action and closed that chapter?
Once you quit how did you feel?
Did any of the things you feared would happen actually happen?
What were the positives that came from quitting?
If you haven't quit, what are you waiting for?
Moving forward…
How can we close a chapter being a “mind changer” and not a “quitter?”
How can we shift our thoughts/feelings around "quitting" to make walking away a more positive process/feeling?
How can we step away gracefully and with integrity, leaving shame at the door?
Is there a chapter you're ready to close?
How can I support you?
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Thanks for reading! I look forward to seeing you next time.
With so much gratitude,