These Three Things Helped Me Understand Myself “Better.”
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I was recently catching up with a friend, and while I can't remember exactly what I said, he replied “don't put yourself in a box.”
When we put ourselves in a box, we are limiting our potential.
“I have ADD, I can't do that…”
“I'm an introvert, I can't do that…”
“I only have one leg, I can't do that…”
And… while boxes can be limiting, they also provide comfort, for me at least.
I get a glimpse into how and why I show up the way that I do.
For the record, I don't let it dictate how I'll show up.
There are three boxes that changed my life when I learned about them:
I am an Introvert.
I have an anxious attachment style.
I am a Manifesting Generator.
When I learned the difference between extrovert and introvert, my life started to make sense. I remember thinking “There isn't anything wrong with me, I'm just an introvert!”
When I learned about attachment styles, once again, my life started to make sense. I knew there had been a common theme with my past relationships and now I was able to understand the root. Once again, I thought “There isn't anything wrong with me, I just have an anxious attachment style.” With this new information, I'm learning tools to heal that.
When I learned I was a manifesting generator, even more of my life started to make sense. There is something called Human Design. I know very little about it and it knows a lot about me. You can find out what you are here.
Manifesting Generators are multi-passionate people. That would explain why I'm on my third career and have a few side hustles. In the past I would judge that, but now I am grateful for a myriad of ways to make money, doing things I enjoy. We are also good at pivoting. I take my work seriously, always showing up with 110%. When my engagement and enthusiasm dips to 99%, it's time for me to “hit the road Jack.” (Hence me being on my third career… the spark was gone.)
I don't let these traits define me, if anything, I learn how to work with them.
I shifted my mindset on networking, figuring out how to connect with people, avoiding the large, uncomfortable groups. I never let myself believe “I'm not good at networking because I'm an introvert.”
Knowing more about my attachment style, the red flags are easier to spot, the ones I was disregarding in the past. I've never thought “I'm doomed and will be single forever because of my anxious attachment style.”
There is so much to learn about Human Design, it makes my brain hurt thinking about it. Similar to astrology, our human design will never change. I will always be a gemini and a manifesting generator. It's based on our birth time and place.
This is not an ad for human design. This is me sharing how learned to understand myself “better.”
I'm in the business of providing clarity. Learning about my human design provided me with an abundance of clarity. I wish the same for you!
My invitation for you:
Bring to mind a box you put yourself in:
How have you used it as a crutch?
How have you learned to work with it?
What box have you transitioned out of? (shy to social butterfly?)
What box do you wish you were a member of?
Working on commercials in LA, the crew knew they had access to any equipment they wanted or needed. When I did a job in Nashville, I loved hearing the DP (Dir. of Photography) say “we'll make do with what we've got.”
I don't have a full tool box, and I'm learning how to live life with the tools I've got. (Initially this felt like a good metaphor and now I'm second guessing myself. Oh well… welcome to inside my brain.)
My friend, you can schedule time to connect with me here.
It's a friendly conversation or you can vent about x, y and z.
Thanks for reading! I look forward to seeing you next time.
With so much gratitude,
Extra gratitude for making it this far!
